The paradox of wishing to be free of unruly and inconvenient bodily demands so that one might live peaceably from within one’s body is intensified. The body is experienced as a menace. From this perspective we cannot but fail. Our bodies are bound to be wrong. It is not our stance towards the body that is seen as problematic. There is no space for such a shared critique. Instead, we feel that the problem lies in the ineptitude of our individual endeavours. We have failed to create the body as it should be or how we want it to be. We have only a temporary peace, with the next opportunity to take ‘it’ in hand and attempt to keep refashioning it medically, emotionally and physically around the corner. There is no such things as body that can simply be.
– Susie Orbach, Bodies.